Lack of Adventure

So it’s been a while since my last adventure and I’m getting extremely antsy!!! I mean, yes I’ve done little day trips around Utah and whatnot, but I have yet to do something BIG. Big as in, out of the country, for that matter, the continent! I need to get away and do something totally new and gain some culture shock. I’m going to explain 2 things in this post for people that may also be feeling this wanderlust like myself: 1. How to control wanderlust by mini-adventures until timing/money/work etc. fits. and 2. something that I don’t yet understand, but a feeling of dissatisfaction and mild-depression.

  1. Okay, yes, who doesn’t want to travel the globe at all times? True, there are a lot of people that wouldn’t enjoy that, but I am not one of them. I feel I need adventure and new experiences constantly to remain happy. Not that I’m not always happy (externally). Sometimes, I just get bored and start questioning life too much… ie. what’s my purpose? I’m definitely not filling at purpose at this job. I need experience, life is short, etc. Okay, not combatting this. Option 1 is to quit your job and just do it, work as you go, couch surf, meet people, and let it all get figured out as you go. This would be amazing if one didn’t have student loans and massive bills that they don’t want to defer. Option2: Save save, and save! Save up your money in an account dedicated to travel! Even if you have a regular savings account, create a new one, maybe even at a different bank or credit union, strictly to save for travel. Put al of your disposable income there before you can go spend it on shit. And I hopefully don’t have to mention this, but use your credit cards like debit cards so that you never have a remaining balance. So put all your money in its various places, then use your credit for monthly spending, keeping to a budget that you have allowed yourself. It’s f***ing hard, especially if you new to this life as I am. In college, I was the master of not spending, just because I couldn’t… I didn’t have a savings or anything, I just had about $9 of disposable income a month. Then I got a job and started making some money and all of a sudden though I was Beyonce. STOP! You are not Beyonce and that money you earn is worth sooooo much more than fancy food, clothes, or whatever else you are buying (box wine is just fine). In the mean time, you have to do mini adventures to make up for the lack of travel. Go on google maps and find little towns near by to visit, have a weekend to explore your own area, or as they say “staycation”, Find out how far you are willing to drive/spend for a weekend and pick somewhere, maybe based on an attraction, scenic area, or friend to meet up with. There is so much to explore within the area that you already are, so do it! Okay, option 3: This option is the most difficult, however it is the one that I myself m leaning towards… Make $$$$$. Invent something, start a company, Find your passion and start making money from it. this may take a while, but if you have the perseverance and grit, then just make it happen. Then you get a passionate career and hopefully some travel.
  2. This specific topic is hard for me to talk about because I just passed the point of denial. Depression is something that is extremely common in this world. It is nothing to be ashamed of. The most important thing you can do is realize it and figure out what is possibly a factor to causing it. Write a list of everything in you life. Repeat… EVERYTHING in your life. That includes relationships (both family friends and romantic), work, passion, health, location and surroundings, time spent in nature, everything that you do on a daily to weekly basis needs to be included on this list. then make another list of the things you wish were on that list. First, rate everything on your actual list from 1-10 on how satisfied you are with it. Then make it a priority to focus on the low level one. Next, start adding in the wish list to your to-do list. You have hiking on your list, then go for a hike every week or so. Painting, cooking, networking, etc, whatever is on the list needs to be integrated into your actual life! As far as over all depression and dissatisfaction with life, this will help and bring more drive as it will provide new experiences and hopefully new habits. Another great habit that you should do every single day? List 3 things that you are grateful for every morning! It can be as deep as a relationship with someone that has helped you or as simple as modern plumbing. I swear, this 1 thing will change your life. It automatically makes you a more grateful and compassionate person, therefore accentuating the little celebrations in life.

I truly hope this helped, because it sure helped me as I wrote it. If it didn’t try writing…

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The Big Apple

IMG_5687 As some of you may know, my senior year in college I had an exchange student/study abroad student ( are those the same?) live with me. Her name is Tarn and she is from London. Turns out, she’s practically a British version of myself. We had an amazing year together, but then she had to go back to the UK. She has visited the states a couple times since then and I have been lucky enough to see her, but it had been over a year and we decided that wasn’t right. New York is one of the closet half way points for us, so we picked some dates, booked flights and found a lovely Airbnb in Brooklyn! To prepare and plan and keep in touch, we created a Pinterest Board filled with fun ideas to spend our time there. I was pumped!

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We met at the airport on a Thursday evening, got to the apartment within 40 minutes or so, changed quickly, and were out the door by 10pm to catch the end of a concert at The Bowery Ballroom. We got to see about 40 minutes of it before it ended and then decided to grab a drink at a super cool speak easy like bar, called Apotheke. There, we made some friends who invited us on a SOHO bar crawl with them, the night ended around 3:30am, which I was quite proud of since we had been traveling all day. Go us!

The second day was very Gossip Girl: Manhattan, Central Park, exploring the Upper East Side, drinking mimosas, and ending the day at Bleaker Street at a wonderful Italian restaurant called Volare! The Staff is the best, food was amazing, and the entire atmosphere was cozy and elegant. Fairly early night since we didn’t get much sleep the previous night.

IMG_5666Day 3, we awoke at 6am! Brooklyn day/Thrifting. We began at the best coffee shop I have ever been to, I wanted to live there; it was so beautiful. We then headed off to the Brooklyn Flea Market where we found some amazing things that I truly believe changed my life. I got a hat that made me feel more myself than any piece of clothing has ever done to me, a little pocket mirror from the early 1900s, a brass tin from the 1800s, an old engagement ring and a couple other little finds. We then left because I was scared I would spend all my money there, so we headed to Williamsburg  Smorgasburg.  If you like food, you could make a trip to New York just for this. It was incredible. After we stuffed ourselves with some of the best food in New York, we decided we needed to shop again. We went to Beacon’s Closet, Urban Jungle (My personal fave), and Monk Vintage. We don’t buy stuff new, that’s boring.

After freshening up a bit, we were off again for part two of the day: Rooftops and Views. We began at the McCarren Hotel’s Rooftop, which had decent views and cheap rose. Next up: The Wythe Hotel’s Rooftop bar, The Ides. Little did we know, It’s apparently a very popular place to go so as we walked up we saw an awfully long line. As usual, I walked into the hotel as If I was staying there, Tarn following closely (She has learned That I do this quite frequently). I began walking towards the guarded elevators right behind a small group of girls that were apart of some private party, they assumed we were with them and we made it straight up to the top within seconds. It was stunning! Expensive rose, but well worth the experience. Sunset there was beautiful, which reminded me of a place I went a while ago called The River Cafe. We decided to head there by ferry boat for our next drink! Even more spectacular views there. Dinner at Rocco’s Tacos was much needed at this point after all of the wine and champagne we had been drinking like water since 4pm. Now, 11pm, we decide it is time to go on a dive bar crawl… The only one who’s name I remember is Union Pool, a very cool place. Over all, This was my favorite day, also it lasted 23 hours, which may have something to do with it.
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Day 4: Last Day, I think we may have a bit drunk from the night before…  Woke up around 9:30, so 4 hours of sleep. Lots of coconut water later, we arrive at Dominique Ansel Bakery, speechless. We did a lot of walking around near Little Italy and SOHO, when I saw a place about a block away that was all plants outside and I just felt intrigued, so we walked over and stepped into the most beautiful garden restaurant and hotel, NoMo SoHo. We just had to stay, even though we knew it was going to be expensive. 1 pitcher of mimosas and eggs benny later, we were feeling good, so we walked to the financial district. I saw a gorgeous building that I felt determined to get to the top of, so we walked in, smiled at the the check in, and took the elevator to the top floor. Up there, we opened a fire exit door which led to a tiny balcony with an archway cutout overlooking the whole city! It was incredible! We pulled out the selfie stick and had some fun. We also discovered an unfinished pent house that we explored! Tired, and a little drunk/hungover, we headed back to the apartment where Tarn packed up and headed for the airport to go back to London 😦 I had a simple night in: picnic in the back patio, sunset on the rooftop, and Game of Thrones Premiere in bed. I also had amazing dreams about more New York explorations, which is kinda like another day spent there. I headed for the airport bright and early where I wrote a couple chapters in my book about opportunity and living in the moment and embracing the people around you. What I love most about New York is how easy it is to do all of those things. IMG_5837

‘Til next time, xoxo